How to Ask for What You Need (The Four Steps of Naming a Need)
Why asking for needs feels so hard, the difference between needs and strategies, and a four-step formula with examples.
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Name-a-Need Builder
Build a clear, kind request in four steps: observation, feeling, need and request.
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How to use it
- Describe what happened without judgment.
- Pick the feeling.
- Pick the need underneath.
- Write a specific, doable request and copy your sentence.
Why it helps
Hints and tests rarely get needs met. A clear, specific request is easier for others to hear and meet.
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