How to Repair After Conflict: A Therapist-Informed Guide
Why repair matters more than avoiding conflict, the steps of a real repair conversation and scripts you can use with partners, friends and family.
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Apology Builder
Build an honest apology in four parts, with gentle warnings for phrases that undo it.
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How to use it
- Name what you did specifically.
- Acknowledge the impact.
- Take responsibility.
- Offer repair or change, then read your draft.
Why it helps
A structured apology avoids common traps like “sorry if” and helps the other person feel truly heard.
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