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Imposter Syndrome: Why You Feel Like a Fraud (and What Helps)
What imposter feelings are, who experiences them, the patterns that keep them going and practical ways to respond.
By Mara Ellison··3 min read
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The short version
- Imposter feelings are persistent doubts about your competence despite evidence of success.
- They’re common, especially in new roles and among high achievers.
- Talking about them openly and tracking evidence helps.
You got the job, the promotion, the degree. And yet you’re convinced you fooled everyone and that any day now you’ll be exposed.
What it is
The “imposter phenomenon” was first described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978. It isn’t a diagnosis; it’s a common pattern of self-doubt. It often shows up in new roles, among high achievers and in people who feel different from those around them.
Patterns that keep it going
- Attributing success to luck or effort, failure to inadequacy
- Over-preparing, then crediting the preparation, not yourself
- Discounting praise
- Avoiding challenges to avoid being “found out”
What helps
- Name it: “This is imposter feeling, not a fact.”
- Keep an evidence file of wins and positive feedback.
- Talk about it. Most people are relieved to learn others feel the same.
- Reframe “not knowing” as part of learning.
- Notice context: sometimes feeling out of place reflects a real lack of support or belonging at work, not a personal flaw.
Questions people ask
Is imposter syndrome a mental illness?
No. It’s a common experience, not a diagnosis, though it can overlap with anxiety and perfectionism.
Written by Mara EllisonWriter behind Therapist Words and author of two self-help books. Not a licensed therapist; content is checked against professional sources. About · Editorial policy
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