How to Stop Overthinking: 9 Strategies That Actually Help
Why overthinking happens, the difference between rumination and problem-solving, and practical strategies to get out of your head.
Anxiety & overthinking
Worry vs. Problem-solving: 8 Differences
Worry circles. Problem-solving moves. A useful test: after ten minutes, do you have a next step?
Pattern A
Worry
VS
Pattern B
Problem-solving
01Direction
WorryCircular
Problem-solvingForward
02Questions
Worry“What if…?”
Problem-solving“What can I do?”
03Focus
WorryUnlikely disasters
Problem-solvingLikely, specific issues
04Output
WorryMore worry
Problem-solvingA next step
05Uncertainty
WorryTries to eliminate it
Problem-solvingAccepts some
06Feeling afterward
WorryMore anxious
Problem-solvingMore settled
07Time
WorryUnlimited
Problem-solvingBounded
08Tool
WorryNone
Problem-solvingPen, paper, a plan
Why it matters
Worry feels productive, which is why it’s hard to stop. Switching to problem-solving, or letting go of the unsolvable, ends the loop.
Try this
- Write the worry.
- If solvable, write one action. If not, postpone it to worry time.
- Return to the present.
Education, not diagnosis. Patterns exist on a spectrum, and most people show both sides at different times.
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